The Bigger Dream
Thursday, November 1, 2012
A Pink Halloween
Flynn was a vision in pink for her fourth Halloween. She's not really a "girly girl" but she told me she wanted to be a pink princess this year. (Of course her wish is my command!)
Flynn's school has a tradition of holding a "Character Parade" on Halloween. The students march around the main campus dressed as a character from one of their favorite books. The students are also required to carry the book as they march. I saw many skinny-armed Harry Potter's lugging around a heavy, thick book as they made three laps around campus.
Flynn is into the "Pinkalicious" series of books so we were lucky her Pink Princess costume worked for this theme. I volunteered to help get the kindergarten students dressed for the big parade. It was a fun, noisy, and hectic experience helping these giddy students prepare for the march. The Executive Director of the school led the parade on bicycle dressed as Ramona Quimby (aka "Ramona the Pest.) The kindergarten students followed and grades 1st-thru-8th marched along. It was an impressive sight.
I had to teach Halloween night so Flynn had an abbreviated "Trick-or-Treat" session with Grandpa. (thanks dad!) She had a good time talking to the neighbors and collecting candy. Her favorite part of the evening was helping Grandma hand out the candy at the door. She'd hear a knock and exclaim, "Oh good! We have more CUSTOMERS!" She was thrilled. I'm proud she enjoys giving more than receiving. She's a special girl.
Friday, October 12, 2012
Pumpkins and Apples
We had a beautiful crisp fall day for our first field trip with Flynn's kindergarten class. Appropriately enough our destination was an apple orchard.
I was a "class parent" for the trip and I was impressed with how the students behaved and cared for one another. The teachers did an amazing job of preparing the students and organizing the trip entirely in Chinese. By the end of the field trip even I was understanding things and speaking a little Chinese.
It's been a while since I last rode in a school bus for an extended period of time. Let's just say it was a memorable experience. I don't recall my tailbone hurting as much as the bus drove over bumps when I was a third grader! For some reason I forgot that these big yellow buses are lacking shock absorbers and any kind of suspension! Ouch!
The kindergarten staff sent a note to parents asking them to dress their children in snow pants, winter coats, hats, and mittens for the trip to the orchard. Now, as I mentioned it is a bit crisp this time of year--but you certainly don't have to dress for blizzard conditions. The situation made me smile and remember the "clothing police" in China. These "officers" were usually Chinese grannies who would scold you for not dressing your child in many layers of thick clothing in July! (I'm not kidding.) For some reason the Chinese culture seems to revere over-dressing. We traveled in a packed school bus with some very warm children. I forgot to mention all the bus windows were closed for the first 15-minutes of the trip. Eventually the school Vice Principal took pity on us and forced some windows to open a crack. I let the five little girls I was responsible for take off their wool hats on the bus! They were grateful. Sweaty but grateful.
When we reached our destination the students had fun running around on the playground, taking a hay ride, hunting for pumpkins and picking apples. Flynn had a great time and I was pleased to see her happily interacting with her school mates.
We capped off the day with apple donuts and Flynn got her first taste of real apple cider. She pronounced it "delicious" and asked if we could make our own from the apples she picked. I told her we lacked an apple press and would buy some at the store. Flynn was a bit disappointed but agreed it "might be easier to buy some at Target."
Thursday, September 27, 2012
The Language of Love
It’s amazing to watch Flynn speak, read and write
Chinese. She continues to enjoy
her immersion kindergarten program and I’m grateful she’s attending such a good
school.
About a week ago Flynn made a
surprising remark as we drove home from school. She said, “I’m kind of afraid to learn more Chinese. What if I begin to forget English? Then I won’t be able to talk to
you.”
I told her she didn’t need to worry about forgetting
English. I reminded her that we all speak English in our house and most of her
friends speak English so she won’t have the opportunity to forget it.
Flynn thought about that for a while and then said, “Yeah,
but I used to speak something else and now I forgot it. Maybe I can forget
English too.”
Her comments took me off guard and I was once again reminded
of Flynn’s fabulous memory. For
the first two years of her life Flynn spoke Cantonese. When we first met she didn’t know a
word of English and I could barely manage to proclaim, “I’m an American!” in
Mandarin. (Wo shi Mei guo ren.)
During her first few months at home Flynn and I spent hours
looking at English vocabulary flash cards, pointing out words and pictures in big
Richard Scarry books, and trying to communicate with each other. The experience helped to strengthen our
bond as mother and daughter.
Flynn’s life in Beihai, Guangxi China is a part of her. One day I hope we can explore this history
together.
On a much lighter note, Flynn and I had fun recently at the
Renaissance Festival. We joined up
with Flynn’s best friend from Pre-School, “M,” and the girls had fun looking at
castles, talking to fairies and meeting members of the festival’s royal
family. They even had a private
audience with the Queen and took an impromptu belly-dancing lesson.
In whatever language we speak or what century we visit—once thing
remains the same. I adore my
girl. As I said to Flynn the
moment I first saw her, “Wo ai ni.”
I love you! She's my Beihai Beauty.
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Ni Hao Kindergarten
Flynn started kindergarten on August 30th. I’m thrilled and proud of my wonderful,
excited kindergartener. I’m sorry I
could not post a more timely update. I'm glad you found this blogspot blog and thank you for continuing to follow our journey.
Flynn is attending a Chinese immersion school and I’m amazed
at how quickly she’s picking up the language.
She can already count to 30 in Mandarin. (She may accidentally skip a
number or two along the way!) The drop
offs the first week of school have been a little shaky. Poor Flynn gets very anxious and tears up as
she says, “I’ll miss you mommy!” This
past Friday we had our first non-crying drop off and I consider it a
victory. As challenging as the drop offs
are—I’m rewarded with picture perfect pick-ups in the afternoon. A happy, smiling Flynn runs down the hallway
yelling, “I had so much fun in school today.
I’m glad to see you mommy!” It
melts my heart every time.
After her first day of kindergarten Flynn asked if she could
hold Baby Sam. When Sam was born in
March Flynn was anxious to hold her cousin.
We all told her once she was in kindergarten she could hold him. (Figuring Flynn would be more mature and Sam
would be less fragile.) Nothing escapes
her memory and Flynn held us to our promise.
She got to hold and feed Sam andI think it was a nice experience for
both of them.
Over Labor Day weekend Flynn and I made a brief visit to the
State Fair with Grandpa. We focused on
repeating the Fair traditions we began during our visit last year. We rode the Sky Ride, the Space Needle, and
saw the butter sculptures. Under the
heading of “anything for my kid” I rode the Giant Slide with Flynn. She was so happy. I’m relieved I did not break my back or
dislocate anything on the way down. Flynn ate her first SnoCone—cherry
flavored—and we ended the adventure with a relaxing bus ride back to our
park-and-ride. It was a nice visit.
As we wrapped up the summer Flynn had some dental
surgery. I’ll spare you the details—I’m
relieved it is over and she’s doing well.
On the last official day of summer vacation Flynn and I went to the new
Como Pool and had a blast. It was a great
ending to an eventful summer.
I’m looking forward to successfully navigating this season
of change.
Monday, August 13, 2012
Interviewed by Puppets
This summer is zipping by and I’m trying to appreciate every
moment—the good and the not so good.
First, I’m lucky Flynn enjoyed her camp adventures. She adored Art Camp and liked learning about
the artistic cultures of the Caribbean and Japan. She was very enthusiastic and I’m impressed
with the quantity and quality of the art she produced. Our favorite project from Japan week was
making Candy Sushi. The children combined
fruit roll-ups, gummy worms, and Rice Krispy treats to make an edible item
resembling a California Roll. It was
very creative.
Flynn reported Chinese Immersion camp was “hard but sort of
fun.” The Chinese camp was held in her
new school. She quickly learned how to
count to 20 in Chinese and mastered some greetings and other vocabulary
words. It took her young, sponge-like
brain just a few days to absorb what took me MONTHS to learn when I took some
beginning Chinese classes before my trip to get Flynn. We’re
both excited about all she will learn once she officially starts
kindergarten. We received a packet from
Flynn’s school on Saturday and are pleased to learn her actual kindergarten
teacher was her main camp leader. Hopefully
this will make Flynn feel more comfortable as she starts her new educational
experience.
I really enjoyed teaching my summer session class at the
University of Minnesota. I taught this
class once before to a large group of about 120 students. This summer I instructed 23 future mass
communication professionals and appreciated the opportunity to really get to
know my students. I hope I don’t sound
too boastful—but I’m pleased with my development as a teacher. Last Fall I took a course called “Preparing
Future Faculty.” It gave me some new
tools to make my lectures more relevant and, dare I say, exciting. I had several lectures this past session when
I felt things were really clicking. I’m
happy because I remember this feeling from my days anchoring newscasts and
programs on the radio. It’s nice to have that feeling again. This Fall I’m teaching a course entirely
online. It’ll be interesting to see how
it differs from traditional, lecture-based teaching. I’m grateful for the opportunity.
So that’s the good. Now for the not so good. We’re dealing with some issues with Flynn’s
cleft, speech, and teeth. On July 19th
Flynn had a nasaloscopy to determine if work needs to be done to “tweak” her
palate. Flynn was a real trooper during
the procedure. She was lightly sedated as they pushed a tiny camera and cord
through her nasal passages and down into the roof of her mouth. Flynn had to be awake so she could repeat
sounds and sentences so we could see her palate in action. I truly could not ask for a better girl when
it comes to dealing with medical appointments.
Once Flynn’s speech therapist, Kelly, told me what to look
for I could see on the big TV screen in the room that Flynn has some “bubbling
and leaking” in connection with her palate.
This is problematic because it is a hindrance to her producing good
speech sounds. Flynn has done a lot of
hard work in her speech therapy sessions—but no matter how hard she works she
can’t overcome the physical and anatomical issues.
We met with Flynn’s surgical team on July 24th. I was totally ready for some bad news and
prepared to talk about another surgery for Flynn. Much to my surprise the team advised it would
be best to wait before another round of surgery. Dr. Wood said he wants Flynn’s head to grow
some more and her adenoids, tonsils and palate tissues to “mature.” We will reassess after the winter
holidays.
I’m grateful we have such a great team of doctors and are
getting wonderful advice. This situation
is a life lesson for me. I’m the type of
person who likes to plan, take on challenges and move forward. In many situations with Flynn I have to learn
to let things happen as they come. I’m
certainly not in control of things and can’t manage all circumstances. It’s a humbling and hard lesson.
We also visited the dentist recently and he determined Flynn
needs oral surgery to fix some deep cavities and to take a good look at the
teeth growing in her cleft area. We’re
traveling to St. Cloud early this Wednesday morning for the surgery. We have to be at the surgical center at
5:45am. So that means a 3am wake-up call
for grandpa and me as we take a sleepy Flynn on a long drive north. This dentist is a specialist and if we tried
to book and appointment in St. Paul we would have to wait until sometime close
to Thanksgiving. I want to get this
taken care of before Flynn starts school.
The early wake-up call will give me a flashback to my days as a morning
newscaster! We appreciate all good
thoughts as Flynn undergoes this procedure Wednesday morning.
Flynn was also a superstar as we participated in the last
session for the “Transition to Home” study at the University of Minnesota International
Adoption Clinic. We began this in-depth
research in September 2009. It’s amazing
to see how far we’ve both come since the study began. This last session lasted more than three
hours. Flynn once again wore the
semi-uncomfortable brainwave cap and spent a good hour playing games and being
interviewed as the team scanned her brainwave patterns in the next room. I participated in a lengthy phone interview
with a researcher in Washington State.
Flynn played games to test her memory and had her saliva collected so
they can examine her stress hormones.
The final activity involved a pair of puppets talking to
Flynn and interviewing her about her feelings.
The session was taped and I got to watch the entire event via closed
circuit television in another room. Some
of the topics were very emotional for me to hear. For example, the puppets asked Flynn about
her dreams. Flynn said she often has bad
dreams. The puppets asked her for more
details. Flynn explained that she often
dreamt she was alone in a hospital and could not find her mother. This is a real emotional button for both of
us—since Flynn was indeed alone during her first surgeries in China. She also talked about how happy she was to
have a mother who cared about her and helped her. It was emotional for me to hear her
forthright answers and a challenge for me to keep my composure.
On a lighter note, I’ll share an amusing exchange between
Flynn and the puppets. Some of the
questions are geared to gauge certain things—like attachment, emotional
maturity, self-control, and structure in the household. It is sort of a parental nightmare to hear
your child talk about what goes on privately in your home. For example, the puppets asked Flynn “Does
your mom feed you healthy snacks or can you eat anything you want to eat.” Flynn replied, “Well, I only like healthy
snacks so that’s what I eat. (Hooray Flynn! In truth, she’s been known to eat
Oreo Cookies, ice cream and Tootsie Rolls!)
This is a classic Flynn exchange:
Puppets: Flynn can
you watch anything you want on TV or does your mother tell you what to watch?
Flynn: I can watch
anything I want on TV (long pause) as long as my mom says it’s okay.
You have to love a girl who won’t rat out her mother! Flynn is the best.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Please Meet My Daughter!
It is my great pleasure to introduce you to my new daughter from China. I am beyond excited and I am so grateful.
Her Chinese name is Guo Danji and she was born on June 25, 2007. It is my understanding that many children living in her orphanage have the last name Guo. I have not settled on her American first name but know her middle name will be Danji.
She is currently living at the Social Welfare Institute of Beiliu City in Guangxi, China. Beiliu City has a population of 1.16 million people and is in the southwestern part of China on the South China Sea.
The doctors at the University of Minnesota International Adoption Clinic have proclaimed her to be “adorable” and a “darling little girl.” I totally agree. She has a cleft lip and palate and I feel lucky to live near two of the top hospitals in the country for dealing with this medical issue.
I have accepted this referral and I’m waiting for China to send the next round of documents and a travel date.
Here’s what the report from the Welfare Institute of Beiliu City says about my beautiful girl:
--She is fond of hugging by her nanny and listening to children’s songs.
--Her favorite toy is a ringing bell. (I’ve already purchased her a new bell!)
--She always pays attention to novel things. (A journalist in training?!)
--She is not afraid of strangers.
--She has a sweet smile and is a lovely girl.
Here’s the brief version of how this happened. I filled out the final paperwork to officially join the WIC program last Thursday. When I asked my social worker, Laura Nystrom, when I should be mentally prepared for a referral she replied, “tomorrow morning.” I was stunned. I doubted her and thought I would be carrying around my phone and checking my e-mail for months. As you may recall, I’ve gotten pretty good at waiting. Monday morning the CCAA sent Children’s Home a file of new waiting children. It included my precious daughter. I got THE CALL around 5pm Monday. I immediately sent the medical records to the U of M. They were wonderful and got back to me within 24 hours. Wednesday morning I told Children’s Home “She’s the one for me!”
How can someone who was waiting so long say—“It all happened so fast?!” But that’s how I feel. It’s a happy whirlwind. I’m falling in love.
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